As long as I know myself I always tried being on time for a meeting or to finish a project at the date it was scheduled. In the same time, I used to be was very tolerant of people who did not care to respect a promise to be on time for a meeting or with respect to a task they had to finish at a certain time.
However, lately, it started to bother me to see that some people never learn to reciprocate my behavior regarding punctuality. If I am on time every time and you are always late, I guess it’s time for you to take an effort to do the same.
Punctuality shows respect for your time, that’s why I expect you to show me the same respect. If I cancel everything else just to be there for you at that certain hour, you should do the same if you still want to have a (good) relationship.
Punctuality means taking the friendship seriously. It means you appreciate the relationship with me and do things to maintain it in the future.
Punctuality it’s about being polite too. “Politeness is the first virtue and the origin perhaps of all the others.” said Andre Comte-Sponville in A small treatise on the great virtues. Do you agree? To have good manners is not only the prestige of the aristocrats, but every man must be well-educated in civilized countries. Otherwise, why spend all those years in school? Just to have a career? But even your career might be shaken you continue to be late on appointments.
Punctuality means to care about my feelings. It shows you realize that it might a frustrating situation for me to wait for at least half an hour for you. It shows that you care about our relationship.
Sure, I heard that the person who cares less always seems to be the person who has the most power over the relationship – but that won’t work with me.
If you do not care about the relationship, there will come a time when it will not matter to me either.
The Earth is full of people now who can connect with each other more quickly, due to the discovery of internet. Today, there is really no need to stay in a bad relationship for fear of loneliness. Open your computer, enter forums or date sites, read blogs and you’ll make new friends pretty soon.
Why should I stick to the relationship if you don’t bother to show up in time?
Here is one important tip if you really want to change and make an effort to be punctual: the time you make me wait for you is a time spent thinking of your bad traits not of your good traits. I don’t have a copyright on this idea, I’ve read it a long time ago in a book written by Balzac (sorry I don’t remember the title now) and I had to admit it must be true for everybody. Perhaps, that’s how I started to pay importance to punctuality. I don’t like people focusing on my flaws while waiting for me, so I rather come on time.